Would i propose a collegue.?

first listen her about her life.. make her so empty, take her whole pain & concerns , then appreciate her courage of living great life with his kid and put your proposal as a request and tell her from my side.. we have only 1 life so what has happened has happened...... you want to enjoy this life or cry choice is yours,,,, i m sure she will accept your proposal.. btw everyone have physical needs on this earth